Increasingly I find myself telling my friends who are in relationships to consider getting married sooner rather than later. Not really sure why that is; maybe I’ve seen enough delayed relationships end in lasting heartbreak or lasting sin. Whether it be college, parents, their own sense of timing, etc., the answer is almost universally the same: “we’re not ready.”
To which I’ve responded (and even moreso now that I’ve been married for a little while): “is anyone ever really ready for marriage?”
This recent article from Christianity Today articulates many of my thoughts. I’m making copies as I type. An excerpt:
Most young Americans no longer think of marriage as a formative institution, but rather as the institution they enter once they think they are fully formed. Increasing numbers of young evangelicals think likewise, and, by integrating these ideas with the timeless imperative to abstain from sex before marriage, we’ve created a new optimal life formula for our children: Marriage is glorious, and a big deal. But it must wait. And with it, sex. Which is seldom as patient.